my dealbreakers (for friends)
AKA do not interact with me if u fall under this list:
under 18 / minors-
explanation: i'm an adult and i only form friendships with other adults. if you're under 18, do not add me, message me, talk about me, or interact with me or my friends in any way.
if you use or support 'neo/xeno pronouns-'
explanation: if u use or defend neo/xeno pronouns or support / are neutral to them; dont come near me. same goes for ppl who interact w or support that scene. ur delusional and not welcome near me.
[ →click here← for why, and the facts.]'therians'/'otherkin' or those who support them
explanation: 'therians' are NOT valid, and i steer clear of anyone who backs or promotes it.
click →here← for more info on the subject.
zionists / anti-palestine / anti-muslim / anti-jewish-
explanation: i love and support palestine, and i do not befriend zionists or people who are openly anti-palestine or anti-muslim. i am not anti-israel or anti-jewish — i heavily fucking hate the israeli government and its actions, especially netanyahu. i also boycott certain brands because of their ties to or support for israel, and i expect that to be respected. you dont have to agree with every single thing i say, but i will not tolerate being mocked or given shit over the places i choose not to support or the occasional comments i make about them. free palestine& fuck netanyahu popoo
inconsistent friends-
explanation: friendships take effort, and i expect consistency. i understand that not everyone can hang out in person often, which is why i have a discord where we can text, vc, game, and spend time together online. but if you constantly ghost me, never text first, or don't put effort into maintaining our friendship, i'll assume you're not interested and i'll move on.
people easily offended or cant handle harsh truths-
explanation: i'm blunt and sometimes come across as hostile even when i'm not. i also have strong opinions and firm boundaries, and certain topics can get me fired up. i'm a sensitive person myself, so pairing me with someone who's easily offended or quick to argue is a recipe for constant conflict. if you're easily upset by direct opinions, dark humor, or blunt language, we probably won't get along. additionally, if you're the type of person to get genuinely upset over words like "retarded" or "faggot," we are not compatible. i don't change my personality or the way i speak to fit other people's expectations.
self-diagnosers and those who support it-
explanation: self-diagnosing is dangerous and dismissive of people who have gone through the diagnostic process. i only recognize professional diagnoses. if you genuinely believe you have a serious or uncommon disorder that requires treatment or accommodations, then seek a professional evaluation as soon as you're able. i know that's easier said than done, but until you've actually been assessed, don't tell people you have the disorder as if it's a confirmed diagnosis. it's fine to say you suspect you have something or that you're seeking an evaluation; it's not okay to present an unconfirmed condition as fact.
watching a tiktok/video about DID [or anything else] and then telling everyone you have DID [or anything else] isn't valid. cry about it.
he/him "lesbians," they/them-only "lesbians," or those who support those labels-
explanation: "he/him lesbians" are NOT a valid thing, and i don't want to debate it. if you identify that way or actively support it, we won't get along.as for they/them-only people who call them selves "lesbians":
if you exclusively use they/them pronouns, "lesbian" is not the right label.Sapphic is a much more accurate term. "Sapphic" is a term for people who are attracted to women and can include nonbinary people, whereas "lesbian" is reserved for only women or those who identify with she/her pronouns. if u dont understand that, we are probably not compatible as friends.
racists or those who support them-
explanation: if you think any race is above another you do not belong anywhere near me.
homophobes-
explanation: if you think being gay or liking the same gender is wrong or something to laugh at you are not welcome here
transphobes-
explanation: if you disrespect real trans people or refuse to use basic pronouns correctly or try to lump trans people with crime or negativity stay far away.
trump supporters (AKA NO MAGA)-
explanation: if you support trump or anything he stands for you already stand against most of what i believe in so do not interact.
{ 📝 personal notes }
to tiktok / facebook / instagram / X users-
FYI: i personally dont use these apps. theres a mix of reasons for that, including boycotting, social anxiety, and just wanting to protect my own mental health. i also have a lot of issues with these companies and how they handle privacy, moderation, misinformation, and the content they allow on their platforms. i especially dont support META or tiktok and choose not to give them my time or money. you dont have to agree with me, but please dont give me shit for choosing not to use or support these apps.
people who are aware of whats happening in Palestine but dont personally boycott-
FYI: i care deeply about Palestine and try my best to make ethical shopping choices, including boycotting certain Israeli brands and companies that i believe contribute to or support the harm being done to Palestinians. i also try to be mindful of similar issues affecting places like the Congo and Sudan. i know everyone has different circumstances and choices, and im not here to force anyone to shop exactly like i do, but i do ask that my choices are respected.if youre inviting me somewhere, please dont intentionally take me to stores or restaurants i boycott unless theres genuinely no reasonable alternative. if we hang out and you offer me something from a brand i boycott, ill probably politely refuse it, and thats not me judging you or trying to start an argument. its simply a personal boundary i care about. 💗if youre interested in learning more or finding alternatives, these are some resources i use:Brand Alternatives 1'Palestine boycott list'Boycott isrealthe No Thanks App! (this is available on iOS and the google store FYI)